The Biggest Misconceptions About Being Single

Single people should be completely miserable, right?

We should be going on dates left, right and centre to try to find someone to ‘make us complete’.

It’s impossible to be happy when you’re single in a culture that is obsessed with relationships.

I have heard it all. Some people just don’t understand that you can be single and happy with your relationship status. They don’t understand how I’m not a puddle of tears and rocking in the corner of my bedroom whilst a hoard of cats takes over my house.

Sorry, but that’s not how being single works.

the biggest misconceptions about being single, Kendel @ Little Misadventures #NZbloggers

I’m still taking part in a blogging challenge, and today I am supposed to talk about the biggest misconception about being single. Sounds good, right? However, anyone who is single knows that there’s no single misconception about the single status. I’m going to pick my favourites and share them with you today!

#1: Single people are down for anything/don’t get any.

Not true. Sometimes people are single by choice, sometimes people are just plain ol’ single. I’ve had people try to set me up with their friends. I’ve had people try to set me up with people for one night. Ew. I don’t know how it happened, but some people believe that single people are ‘down for anything’. Read: We are so lonely that we will settle for anything that we get.

On the flip side, some think that single people are lonely and don’t get any. Not true. I’m just going to leave it at that.

#2: Single people are lonely.

There’s a difference between being lonely and being alone. I can be perfectly happy in being by myself. I value my alone time. However, I’m hardly lonely. Please stop it with your comments. I’m not lonely.

#3: Single people hoard cats/dogs/other animals.

Well, I remember hearing that a woman on The Bachelor NZ had twenty (?) animals. Does that correspond to her being single? Probably not. Maybe. I can assure you that most single women won’t have an army of animals waiting for you because housing rules are strict and no one is allowed pets on their properties these days. Am I a cat person? Maybe…but I want a dog more. One that looks all kinds of terrifying and majestic.

#4: Single people are ‘less mature’ than their coupled up friends.

When did being in a relationship become mandatory for being considered as ‘mature’? Someone tell me. Please. I must have missed that memo. Sure, there’s the whole ‘settling down’ aspect of life, but I don’t know if that has to do with maturity or meeting the right person.

#5: Single people party all the time.

Sure – some of them do. There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m a ‘single person’ and I know that I don’t party all the time. My idea of a good night is wine, a good book, and Netflix. Does that make me old before my time? Maybe, but that’s what makes me happy. However, does that mean that you’re partying days are over when you get coupled up? I sure hope not.


Those are five of the most common misconceptions that I have heard over the years. Some of them are pretty insane, right? 😉

Tell me…

  • What are some misconceptions that you have heard about single people?
  • What are some misconceptions that you have heard about coupled up people?
  • Are you a cat or dog (or other animal) person?
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2 thoughts on “The Biggest Misconceptions About Being Single

  1. I think this is so interesting! I got married at a young age, so many of my friends were single for a long time while I was married (and my very best friend is single currently). I have never thought many of these things. Hell, sometimes I have even been a tad jealous of the “single” life. Spending your life with someone is a HUGE decision, you should take your time and enjoy your alone time before you get married. I loved this post!! Thanks for sharing.

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  2. There seems to be a common thought that if you are male and single at a certain age then you’re just out to get laid and you’re having tons of fun… They don’t take into account those of us who are painfully shy lol, and it shits me sometimes!

    Other than that, everything you’ve said is right on!

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