“And WHY are you still single?”

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Why I'm Still Single, Kendel @ Little Misadventures #nzbloggers

I can’t pretend to be shocked when I hear this question being asked. I have heard it all before. I have heard it all too often, too.

Don’t get me wrong. I like being single. In fact, I’ve written about how being single is awesome. I’ve also written about what it’s like to date me, why being in a relationship is awesome, and a few first dates that I would like to go on…one day.

I’m not going to sit here and write some sob story about how some boy, Bob*, broke my heart and, consequently, I decided that all men are the spawn of satan. I’m not going to sit here and write out a mini pity party for my singledom. Nope. Sorry. That isn’t going to happen.

I have dated. Sometimes one person. Sometimes multiple people at the same time. Because why not? I can do what I want. I am a female. Hear me roar and all that 😉

That being said, my Facebook status still reads ‘single‘.

Even after seeing the same guy for a year (or close to it) and falling for him, my relationship status still read ‘single‘.

So, why am I still single?

I wish I had the answer.

I’ve written the last two-hundred and something words of ramble because I am still trying to figure out why I’m single myself.

I think we live in a society where it is odd to be okay with being single. Heck, look at The Bachelor/Bachelorette/Bachelor in Paradise. They are shows and spin offs that are based on people finding relationships and that ‘happily ever after’. And we lap it up. Clearly. I mean, who didn’t watch the finale of The Bachelor?

You, my friend, are a unicorn.

I’m still single because I like my independence. Too much.

I’m still single because I haven’t met anyone who ‘ticks all my boxes’.

I’m still single because I like dating a lot. Why do you want that to end?

I’m still single because I like being able to blog at 1am on a Friday morning and not be judged for it.

I’m still single because I haven’t tried to see a future with someone.

They sound like silly reasons, don’t they? In all honestly, they aren’t reasons at all.

A while ago, I did a quiz that determined my personality type. Apparently I’m an ISTP, which explains a lot when it comes to my dating style. I am all for relationships. I like them. However, I do like feeling like I have a little bit of flexibility when it comes to dating. If you happen to read my personality profile then you would see that ‘it’s a bit like nailing Jell-O to a tree’. If I like you, then I will do my damnedest to make it work. Though my track record isn’t a reflection of that.

Why am I single?

Why don’t you mind your own business? 😉


11 thoughts on ““And WHY are you still single?”

  1. I’ve heard it said before that there is an “increasing obsession with romantic love.” And I don’t think it’s specific to any one demographic (men or women, old or young, etc.). It just kind of is. And that obsession with being with someone puts people into two camps – people who are in relationships and people who aren’t – and almost forces them to “defend” their lifestyle as the “right way to be.” Which, of course, isn’t fair. We are all entitled to live our lives at our own pace and follow our feelings wherever they may take us. 🙂

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    1. – Slow clap –
      Amen! I 100% agree with everything that you said! So, so true. I have lost count on how many times I’ve had to defend why I’m single. I’m going to start referring people to my blog and have them do a search or two haha. I’m sure they’ll figure it out. Some people have just been in relationships their whole lives and they can’t imagine being single…Well, I’m the other way around, and they can’t get HOW I am happy with that. I feel like I need a t-shirt made some days haha.

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  2. Interesting post. It’s great that you don’t mind being single – I’ve been single for all 24 years of my life and honestly do want that to change, but I’m not rushing anything because I do enjoy my independence (I am an Aquarius after all). I love that you shared your MBTi type with us… I’m an INFP.

    Erin | beingerin.com


    1. I like being single TOO much haha. I actually have a new post in the works about it 😉 Probably be up in a few days. I hate the cliche, but it is true: ‘It’ll happen when you least expect it.’ 🙂 I love the personality types! I find them so fascinating!


  3. I am single because I’m not looking. I’m single because guys mothers interfere. I’m single because guys feel a little intimidated ~ can’t help that!


  4. I spent years teaching guys how to overcome their fear of approaching and starting relationships with women (I used to be terrified of females to the stage where I couldn’t be near an attractive girl and breathe at the same time). I’m single because I set the bar to high? I’m an all or nothing type of person. I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who I’m not crazy about but I’m beginning to think that I need to relax a lot and just go with someone who I quite like. I’m done with being single. I hope that I’ll be lucky enough to find someone who I can really love, like, care for, travel with and have many great adventures with. Perhaps lowering my expectations is the key and realizing that I can’t have it all. I think my own ego is partially to blame, combined with living in a remote area where there aren’t few opportunities to meet potential partners.


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