I’m Not One of Those Crazy Single Girls

I’m no stranger to being single. I’m no stranger to being in a “relationshipwhatever that is either. I have said time and time again that I’m going to be one of those crazy cat ladies. You know the ones. They have about fifteen cats and each one has a name and backstory. Give me fifteen years, and you’ll be seeing photos of all my cats. You wait 😉

The only thing I can guarantee right now is that I’m not one of those crazy single girls.

You know the ones that I’m talking about. I’m almost 100% certain that you can name a crazy single girl in your life. If you can’t, then you might want to take a look at yourself honey 😉 You might just be that crazy single girl. There’s no shame in it. Kind of.

I'm Not a Crazy Single Girl, Kendel @ Little Misadventures BlogNever will I ever think that you “complete me” in any way, shape or form.

I have heard of people who believe that having someone by their side makes them “complete” and feel like more of a person. Um, honey, you always have been a person, and you don’t need someone to validate that. I have seen people absolutely chase down guys and jump from man to man because they’re scared of being single. I’ve been single for a long, long time, and I can say that it is awesome…if you give it a chance. So, no. I will not being that crazy single girl who chases down a guy to feel “complete” or validated.

I don’t stalk people on social media (without good reason).

We live in the age of social media. Everyone has an account on something, whether it be Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, or Instagram. It isn’t hard to find stalk people online. I don’t know how many times people have said, “You aren’t friends on Facebook? You need to change that!” to me. They think it’s some sort of crime that I haven’t clicked that ‘add as friend’ button. I don’t feel the need. I don’t Google search people. I don’t creep on their Instagram account. I don’t search through all their hashtags on Twitter to try decipher some hidden meaning. Unless you give me a good reason to do so.

Blind date? You bet I’m going to put your cellphone number through Facebook so I can make sure you aren’t a crazy.

That “gut feeling”? Hell yes. I am going to take a peek at your Instagram account and see what you posted.

Getting weird messages in the middle of the night? I might check your Twitter for any other “brain dumping” activities that you’ve been doing.

I can accept that a one night stand is a one night stand.

Can you? I won’t be waiting around for your message or wondering if I should message you first. You leave a phone number in the morning to seem like a gentleman, but we both know that I’m not going to use it. And I don’t. Both of us go on our merry way and continue living as if nothing happened…until we see each other again.

I’m not a clingy, control freak.

I don’t expect to be around you every second of every day. I don’t expect you to message me every second of every day either. In fact, I would prefer it if you didn’t. Nothing turns me off quicker than having a constant conversation with someone. It is tiring. I also won’t stop you from going out and living life. Heck, I’m single, you’re single. We met when we were doing whatever we wanted, so why would I stop that?

I don’t overanalyse things.

If I want to message you, then I will message you. If I want to include an innuendo or two, then I will. I won’t take that message at 1am for more than what it is. I don’t fill a moment of silence with unnecessary babble. The minute you start overanalysing why he replied saying “K.” to a paragraph long message is when you should worry about being a crazy single girl.

I don’t start to envision the future after one (or ten) month(s).

Heads up: I’m a one-day-at-a-time type of girl. If you start talking about doing things together six months down the road (even in the hypothetical) you will freak me out. I’m sure it would be the same if I did it to you. I won’t be planning the future wedding or white picket fence or travel. I won’t be planning anything except my dinner and the next book I want to read. Seriously.

Question time!

Have you met a crazy single girl or are you that crazy single girl?

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

Let me know in the comments! I would love to hear some of your stories 🙂


13 thoughts on “I’m Not One of Those Crazy Single Girls

  1. I’ve witnessed this in so many women, especially the hopping from man to man one – I had a friend who had 4 “serious” relationships in close succession (like, she was single for a week in between at the most), and the 4th one she married after being with him for 3 months…


  2. You sound pretty much like me! (although I am prone to bouts of social media stalking when I feel the need.) I used to over analyse messages but life is so much EASIER when I stopped doing just that. I’m a very civilised single gal, would I like to be in a relationship sometime? Yeah of course, but I’ve major exams in the next year and the less complications right now the better, I want to live a bit of life first for myself while I still can. You know what I can’t stand seeing? Those people who literally HANG off fellas on a night out. There’s “playful banter”, but is looking like you’re trying to swing off the poor guy really a thing? I swear I’m rolling my eyes half the time I see these antics. I prefer a normal conversation myself, minus the handling!


  3. I enjoyed this post! I liked being single but was prone to facebook stalking and overanalysing everything. If I am ever single again I like to think I would be a lot more sane and not take it all so seriously!


  4. haha! I’m not a “single girl” but I think this can apply to women across the board. I’m married but I wouldn’t say that my husband “completes me.” And I don’t stalk or over analyze his social media. Those are things for insecure women, and if a man makes you feel that way… move on.


  5. HAHHA I couldn’t stop smiling when I was reading this post! I find it funny cos I feel like I really could be a crazy single girl cos I pretty much use to do the stalking, the clingy, and the overanalyzing during the beginning of my relationship! This was defiantly a great read 🙂


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