I don’t know if you’ve figured it out by now, but I have a bit of experience with being single. I still stand by what I said: Being single is awesome, but you have to give it a chance first. Society says that relationships are best, and they transfer that ideology with the things that they say to us. How would they feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
Why the heck did you get married? You realise that you’re stuck with this person for the rest of your life, right? When are you having kids?
Questions, questions, questions. Do you ever get sick of them? I know I do. So, to combat all the people hating on your awesome single life, I’ve come up with ten things that every single girl should do.
1. Flirt. Shamelessly. With everyone.
You’re single. What the heck are you supposed to do? Flirt with everyone. Seriously. People older than you. People younger than you. Women. Men. Just flirt. Flirt like your life depends on it. Every single girl should feel proud of their option to flirt with whoever the heck they want, and consequences be damned. College is the perfect time to flirt and date and make bad choices.
Side note: I’m a terrible flirt. My idea of flirting still involves punching people (playfully) and throwing stuff. Clearly stuck in that twelve-year-old mindset 😉
2. Mow the lawns. Take out the rubbish. Check the car oil. Find a ladder and fix that problematic lightbulb.
This is just to make a point to the world that you don’t need a partner to help you do these things. We are perfectly capable of doing whatever we want if we put our minds to it. I mean, how hard is changing a lightbulb? #dontneednoman
Want to go to Australia? Do it. Want to go to Austria? Do it. Want to go to America. Go ahead. You get my point. Travel. This is the time for you to be single and selfish. You absolutely should travel. In college? Take advantage of those breaks that you get. Weeks upon weeks upon weeks are gifted to you from the college system. Do something with them.
4. Spend time with your family and friends.
Spend some real time with them. Not just an hour or a day. Take a weekend and go camping. Go surprise them for a week. I think it should be mandatory that every single girl should gather her friends for a girly weekend away. Don’t you agree? I’ve secretly wanted to do this forever. Not a girly weekend, mind you. I’ve wanted to gather everyone and just go camping with alcohol and good food. I tend to work all through summer with no break, so I miss out on the opportunity. I’m going to arrange it to happen during the year.
You know, one day.
5. Binge watch all your favourite shows.
Want to watch Teen Mom? Hell yeah girl – you do you. Want to watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians? Suit yourself. Want to watch all of Grimm in one sitting? I totally understand. This is the perfect opportunity to get a bag of candy, some pizza (or sushi) and stream all the best shows on Netflix. Do it and don’t be ashamed about it. I know I’m not.
Reminder: College is also a perfect time to binge watch all your shows. Choosing between exam prep and your favourite show is a no brainer, right?
6. Go on a date with an older guy.
Who says that you have to stop at one? In the last year, I’ve gone on dates with (at least) seven guys who have been (at least) ten years older than me. I can honestly say that they treated me with respect and not like a piece of meat. They also know good food and wine, which is a bonus. Older men are a good time.
You know, for a while.
7. Spend time alone.
I’ve said this once and I’ll say it again: you need to spend time alone to really appreciate being single. It is awesome and nothing to be ashamed of. Just think of all those cats that you can own 😉 In all honesty though, I’ve become so adjusted to being alone that letting someone into my
bed life is weird. So weird. No more star-fishing in the middle of the bed and hogging all the blankets to myself. What has my life become? 😉
8. Find a new hobby.
Blogging is my thing. Writing is my thing. Reading is my thing. Exercise is becoming my thing…and an obsession. A hobby could turn into a career. You never know what could happen in the future. Just try something. Anything. College is full of opportunities too. Clubs, sports teams, meet ups or creating your own group – your options are endless.
Do nothing. Absolutely nothing. You can be selfish in this way too. No one expects you to do anything and you can take whole days for yourself.
Unless you’re employed, in which case you are an unlucky person. (Kidding. I would like a job. Someone hire me. Please.). You could have a whole day binge watching your favourite shows or frolicking around on the beach. You could take the whole day to write a blog post (like me) or to read a book (also me).
10. Make the first move.
That hot guy at the bar? Talk to him. Shirtless stranger on the beach? Give him your number. Flirt. Shamelessly. Make the first move…even if you have to down a drink
or ten before you do so. Never try, never know. Right? Just do it. It is a bit of an adrenaline rush…and addictive.