I am publishing another guest post today! This one is from one of my “real life” best friends who also has a blog of her own. I have seen this chick go through some massive ups and downs, but I’m happy to say that with a little time and a lot of wine she might be coming out the other side and now she can look after my crazy ass. 😉 let’s see what she has to say!
I got asked if I wanted to do a guest blog for this honey, Little Misadventures, and after initially being hesitant (my life is pretty boring at the moment) I decided to dig into my creative juices and get a guest post flowing 🙂
This particular blog post is about my thoughts of my newly single life. I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago, and although we broke up about 3 months ago and got back together, this time it’s for good. There was just nothing more either of us could do to make each other happy. Our relationship felt forced. It felt like we were better friends than we were boyfriend/girlfriend. We got lazy. Most of all, we are in very different stages in our life.
We are still good mates and as hard as it is to say goodbye to someone who has being in my life for a year and a half, I think it is the right thing to do. I feel content. Now, however, I re-enter the single life. My experience of being single is either really boring, or extremely drama filled. I am probably the worst person to try and find a date, because I have no game. I can’t flirt to save myself, and unless I’m insanely drunk, I haven’t a clue what to say to a guy. Alcohol is basically my savior in social situations that contain males.
I am quite excited to re-enter this dating scene, single life after so long. I just have no idea how to do it. I want to go out and be single, but I don’t want to have causal things, or one-night things with people I don’t care about and people who don’t care about me. I’ve been there and done that, and I don’t want to go through that drama again.
I’m not really interested in the town and clubs scene, but I think it’ll do me some good to get out there again and just have fun! There’s no pressure to do anything I don’t want to do, and at the end of the day, I’m single and can do what I want. I know my boundaries, and I know what I’ll be happy with doing and what I wouldn’t and I know the consequences of my actions; this is knowledge that comes with age and experience. Ask me the same thing this last year and I wouldn’t have known any of this. Being older and wiser now, I know who I am a little bit more, and I’ve had the experience of how to know when something is not right for me. One thing a relationship has taught me is that I shouldn’t sacrifice who I am simply for a man’s attention and affection. Someone who truly cares about you will love you no matter what, despite your flaws, despite how low you think of yourself, and how much you don’t see the woman that he sees. I was lucky enough to have someone who truly loved me for me. Despite my past, despite my flaws, and despite how much I hated myself sometimes.
To be honest, single life scares me a little (a lot). I haven’t being single in a really long time, so the thought of putting myself out there truly terrifies me. I just have to remember to be myself, and not try and impress anyone. It’s not my job to impress anyone simply to get their attention. If they like me, that’s great, if not, I’m not going to lose any sleep over it. We are often told that we have to ‘impress’ guys or ‘keep them interested’. Um, no. If a guy is interested in you, he will make an effort.
So to all you recent single ladies out there, don’t dwell on your past relationship, accept how things are, and go and do something for you. I’m not saying go out and get with as many guys as you can, but just go have fun being single. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging when a relationship is not working, and to go and just be single. Do what’s right for you, because at the end of the day, it’s your life.