If I were to meet myself from ten years ago, she would be ten. She would be just a baby in this ‘grown up world’. I would hold her hand and tell her that everything is going to be okay; that I know nothing makes sense at the moment, but it will all work out for the best.
The most challenging thing she will experience is not something physical. No. The most challenging thing she will see is the people she loves in pain…and know there’s nothing she can do to change it. It seems strange for me to be saying this as we’re known as having “the emotional range of a teaspoon”, but it will cut her to the core. It will alter her view on relationships, marriage and family, but she will eventually meet people who hold all of her broken pieces together. She will love them.
I could tell her that people will constantly underestimate her because of her ‘baby face’. She will work hard to prove everyone wrong. She will also have braces for four years, and they don’t help the ‘juvenile’ factor. The ‘baby face’ gene is something she will eventually embrace, despite her eagerness to ‘grow up’. She gets her braces taken off when she’s twenty. Learn to be patient and please don’t be in a hurry to grow up. It happens far too quickly. Believe me when I say that the days are long, but the years are short. Ten years can (and do) fly by in the blink of an eye.
The most rewarding things will be getting into university and changing her mind a million times until she finds a degree that she truly loves. There will be lessons in life and love, and she will learn to embrace her emotions…even when they scare her. She will apply to study abroad in England and that acceptance letter will give her the confidence boost that she needed. Little does she know that she won’t go, but that is beside the point. Like Lauren said, the friendships that she forms will be the most rewarding (and occasionally challenging) thing that she develops in the next ten years.
The fun thing is simply growing up and going on an adventure of her own. There are Christmases, birthdays, travel, a lot of moving and a lot of decision-making. She goes on pointless drives, great dates and terrible ones, drinks during the day and makes occasionally blurry memories with her friends. She lives.
I could have avoided telling her a lot of things like Lauren did, but most of the people and events (in her history and future) are drawn to her like magnets. You cannot outrun the unavoidable. You just enjoy the ride.